Relationship Tools
Free tools for the work between sessions.
Practical worksheets and interactive tools to help you see your patterns and do something different — whether or not we ever work together.
Interactive & AI-assisted
Tools you can use right now
Assessment · 25 min
The Discernment Assessment
A private, 25-minute “should I stay or go?” reflection built on the research (Gottman, Hanson, Real, Sexton) — with a directive reading, a 30-day plan, and a decision framework.
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AI-assisted
Prepare for a hard conversation
An AI-assisted tool that helps you organize what you want to say — then builds a prompt for ChatGPT or Claude to help you say it well.
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AI-assisted
Draft a repair message
Said something you regret, or gone quiet too long? This builds an AI prompt to help you write an honest, non-defensive repair.
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Interactive
Relationship check-in (interactive)
Answer ten quick questions and get an honest read on where things stand — right here, nothing saved, nothing sent.
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Downloadable worksheets
Print them, fill them in, bring them along
The Same-Fight Worksheet
Map the loop you and your partner fall into — the trigger, your moves, and what's underneath — so you can see it from the outside.
Relationship Check-In
A simple, honest ten-question check-in to take on your own or together, with space to talk about what comes up.
Preparing for Your First Couples Session
What to expect, and a few prompts to help you both arrive ready to make the most of it.
How to Ask Your Partner to Try Therapy
A short, practical guide to raising it without it turning into the very fight you're trying to fix.
These tools are here to help you help yourself. If you'd like a hand using them, that's what the free consult is for.
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A note on this tool. It helps you organize your own thoughts and builds a prompt you can use with a general AI assistant like ChatGPT or Claude. It is not therapy, not personalized advice from Koby, and not a substitute for professional help. Nothing you type here is sent to Koby. If you're in crisis, call or text 9-8-8 or call 9-1-1.