About

Hi, I'm Koby.

I help individuals and couples in Victoria recognize the patterns and practices holding them back — and change them.

Koby Smutylo — counsellor in Victoria, BCKoby Smutylo

A different road to this chair

In addition to being a therapist, I'm a business lawyer, and for more than twenty-five years I've worked with clients as their trusted counsel in high-pressure situations. That experience has shown me that our relationships are the foundation underneath everything else — that true success and happiness come through our relationships, not economics.

I work as a therapist to help people live more successful lives, with their partners and with themselves. I believe this is achievable for all of us.

How I work

Honest, active, and on your side

My primary training is in Relational Life Therapy (RLT), developed by Terry Real, an approach that's direct without being harsh, and warm without being soft. I won't validate blindly. I'll help you see and change the patterns holding you back.

I also integrate Emotionally Focused Therapy, the Gottman Method, and trauma-informed, parts-based work (Internal Family Systems) as they fit. My objective is change you can feel, not in theory, but in your kitchen, with the person or people in your life.

What guides the work: Be self-aware and open to change. Take responsibility. Do the work that produces actual change. Don't stop.

Credentials & training

Background

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Credentials

J.D., Masters in Clinical Psychology, RCC (pending), RLT Certified (pending).

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Relational Life Therapy

Trained in Relational Life Therapy through the Relational Life Institute with Terry Real.

03

M.A. Clinical Psychology

Graduate training in clinical psychology in California.

04

Juris Doctor (JD)

Business lawyer for more than 25 years, advising clients as their trusted counsel.

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