Couples Counselling — Sidney, BC
Couples counselling for Sidney and the Peninsula
Down the Pat Bay when it suits you, and online when it doesn't.
Office at 733 Johnson Street, Unit 228 · downtown Victoria · and online across BC
Getting here
From Sidney to the office
Sidney sits at the north end of the Saanich Peninsula, near the airport and the Swartz Bay ferries, with the Pat Bay Highway running straight down to Victoria. It's a clean run outside of peak hours and a slower one during them.
For Peninsula couples I'd suggest deciding at the start whether you want in-person sessions, online sessions, or a mix — and then protecting that decision. What derails the work is usually the week where the drive stops feeling worth it.
What brings couples in
- Retirement or semi-retirement that turned out harder on the marriage than expected
- Suddenly far more time together, and less to say than you thought
- Old resentments surfacing now that work isn't absorbing them
- A second marriage carrying the lessons and scars of a first
- Wanting the next twenty years to be better than the last five
The work itself
It is not too late, and you are not too old
A long relationship accumulates patterns the way a house accumulates furniture — nobody chose most of it, and moving any of it feels like a bigger job than it is. The work is naming what's actually happening between you, honestly, and then practising something different. That doesn't require excavating forty years. It requires both of you being willing to look at your own part.
I work in Relational Life Therapy, which assumes you're strong enough to hear your part in the pattern. Nobody gets pathologised, and nobody gets to sit this out.
And if the drive is the thing standing in the way, it doesn't have to be. I work by secure video with couples anywhere in British Columbia, and the work translates better to a screen than most people expect. Plenty of couples do a mix: in person when it suits the week, online when it doesn't.
Questions
Questions from Sidney
Is there an office on the Peninsula?
No — in-person sessions are at 733 Johnson Street in downtown Victoria, down the Pat Bay Highway. Secure video sessions are available anywhere in British Columbia if the drive isn't practical.
Are we too old for couples therapy to help?
No. Long relationships often respond well, partly because both people have a clearer sense of what they actually want and less patience for pretending. The pattern is usually older than the marriage, and it's still changeable.
Do you work with retired couples?
Yes. Retirement changes the shape of a relationship considerably — more time together, less external structure, and often a renegotiation nobody explicitly agreed to. It's very workable material.
Can we do some sessions online and some in person?
Yes, and many couples on the Peninsula do exactly that.
How do we start?
A free 15-minute consultation. No pressure and no obligation — it's mostly so you can hear how I work and decide whether it sounds like the right fit.
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You don't have to figure this out alone.
The consultation is 15 minutes, by phone, and free. We'll talk about what's bringing you in, what you're hoping will change, and whether I'm the right person to help. No preparation, no pressure to book.